Sex and masturbation...could be a problem with younger people and kundalini...it is truly amazing that energy-consciousness-chi = connection. This connection doesn't mean simply "dumping," but "devotion"... it is a matter of energy architecture one could say. Sex is lift (life) energy...in a trash culture we like to throw it away like everything else. But like money, it can build and feed one's alchemical transformation if used wisely. Thus all the methods we use to waste our energy in order to subdue ourselves down to Borg frequency must systematically be eradicated over time, including addictions, pathetic relationships, toxic work places, bad diet, lack of exercise etc, etc, etc... In a trash culture, after a while masturbation doesn't even become an issue because you don't have enough energy to do it anyways, nor are there any orgasmic rewards. So, it is simply a matter of being organic and real, serving your true nature and coming more alive. That is, free yourself, don't limit yourself, life is too short to be put in a box in the corner of the attic.
If you were in a toxic marriage or sexually abused or shamed in childhood, your sexuality is probably not very well integrated. Because of this blockage kundalini tends to get very “hot” while building and pushing through the repressed and traumatized regions. The “hot burn” of kundalini awakening is just your life-energy (kundalini) is making up for lost time. The heat you are feeling now it just your own energy returning to you now that you are in a self-loving relationship with yourself, and you are safe enough from tyranny to “come out.” Sex energy is not necessarily about sex and relationships, it is just lifeforce...if it is threatened and abused it goes into hiding, until such time the repression is lifted and one’s creative, psychic, subtle-senses awaken. It is not such a good idea to run off and try and find someone to bleed off the energy with in sex...because the energy has to build and push through the repression still in your system. You can use the ground, sun, water, nature and exercise to integrate the energy, as well as things like fasting, toning, martial arts, singing, dancing etc...to get your oppressor out of your system.
For the spiritual aspirant, of course sex and masturbation are not inherently bad, but it is inadvisable to excessively waste Chi that is needed for transfiguration of the body. It takes skill to circulate the energy, lift and integrate it through movement, breath, grounding and focusing it upward. But I also have a masturbation exercise in the BOK kundalini skills where hot rocks are placed on the belly while nude sunbathing, and the initiate masturbates without tensing any muscles in the belly or attempting to achieve orgasm. This trains the individual to move away from compulsive, egoic, goal driven sex, to an apriori sense of energy integration where the overwhelming pleasure of 24 hour sexual bliss associated with awakening can be enjoyed without the compulsive need to plug into and rub up against other peoples bodies. This is why it is inadvisable for a kundalini active to have sex with non-initiates, because unless the shakti has automatically arisen in an individual through their own efforts, they may not have the rational, self-discipline or self-observatory powers to handle a kundalini awakening via sex-shaktipat.
Many people are misusing the notion of Tantra without these higher moral considerations. They will get themselves and others into trouble, and waste their chi on sex, when it could be used for transmutation of the cells and the high arts of the Muse. The sexual energy of awakening is so extreme during the peak that the initiate must Grok that "sex is not sex" and that this erotic energy is Eros or the creatrix force of the universe itself. To mindlessly waste it on personal gratification not only destroys the soul, but it shunts off the genius of the Muse into biological rather than cognitive and artistic heights. Thus if we have an awakening population distracted by sex, the order, structure and gnosis on which a civilization stands is undermined. There is a place for everything, if everything is in its place.
The soul or the Muse uses the male/female sex chemistry to play out romantic stories which awaken and grow the brain. The universe is like a projected holographic drama for our personal awakening. Dreams arising from our highest levels of consciousness are vastly more intelligent and awake than our waking life...and thus are a principal agent in building the spiritual brain. By following our romantic dream life we may not only find a spiritual partner, but through such a marriage between the inner psyche and the outer world, we may slowly over countless millennia become Gods ourselves. In sovereign society sex is not repressed, it is elevated to the realm of the Gods.
Being somewhat awakened in a sleeping culture is like time traveling back many centuries or millennia and having to participate in a primitive society whose thoughts, behaviors and moirés are incongruous with one’s own. You get continually disappointed, while “they” can’t read you and adopt hindbrain defense patterns to try and get on top of you so they can feel safe. Or because of your more stable and expansive energy they may try and adopt you as a parent. After a while the walls of reality start closing in and it can start to feel like certain times in history when the archetypal mind was destabilized into a collective psychotic break. Thus you have to choosee your environment carefully, gravitate mainly to your social meme level and adopt a “non-interference” policy, by only giving people just as much as they can digest and assimilate in small well spaced bites.
As Gary Null says, “Love should never subvert itself to a lower standard in order to accommodate another person’s dysfunction.” Thus without question it is against natural law for a kundalini initiate or a sovereign to have sex with a sleeper. This is only common sense in that their degree of disorder and incoherency will rub off onto us, and we will lose our hard won cosmic alignment (sanity). For the sovereign, sex and all else for that matter, is directed by the Muse, and the Muse is the force of motivation produced BY the whole person in perfect communion with the cosmos. Thus 99% of the sex undertaken by the Borg is spiritually immoral to the sensibilities of the sovereign. Not to be a self-righteous ass or anything, but morally repugnant and repulsive one might say. And this is simply because the Borg acts on entropic drives for power-over including position, property, wealth, security, status, and even children for the egoic satisfaction of these deprivation needs at the bottom layers of Maslow’s hierarchy.
The separate-self-sense of the Borg, due its cosmic disconnection and discombobulation, has a strong desire to plug into life energies through their sex organs in order to feel “home” in the universe for a few seconds. Thus the Borg is sex mad, while being radically love deprived, because their sex is energy wasting and doesn’t “make love” (ie: make coherency) like it is supposed to. Connection is coherency is love. Those who are not initiated into their cosmic connection are thus sex obsessed and reliant on the physical sexual domain for their orgastic reward and relief from angst. They don’t know of the higher levels of bliss-connection achieved through kundalini activation, revelation, gnosis, high art, contemplation, writing, visioning, and spiritual practices. It is the unavoidable truth that the individual must be plugged into the cosmos first before relationship is motivated by the Muse and is love or order building. That is why the Borg relationship retards consciousness, freedom, enlightenment and evolution and leads to wholesale dysfunction and the collapse of sacred society. The way to climb the meme spiral out of Borg psychosis is to follow Joseph Campbell's advice and start following your bliss!
"Act only according to that maxim whereby you can, at the same time, will that it should become a universal law." A categorical imperative according to Kant.